Gotabite
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The process you described is better known as ruminating....try to find a means of blocking thoughts that force you back into something you have already dealt with.
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Looking for something to worry about is a bit different than actually having a problem there that is worrying you, my friend. :) Sometimes we can wreck our nerves, because we stay so tense and on guard waiting for something to happen.......I will be the first to admit that for some of us life is no picnic........But I find the key to enjoying life, is in taking one step and one day at a time..........in finding a rainbow at the end of each cloud, and in being thankful that each storm in my life could have been worse. :(
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Jeanway, my thoughts about art are very similar to yours. I view art as "nature made" and "man made"......... Have you ever been to the Painted Desert?..........Now that is art in its most natural form. I also believe art to be very subjective..........As you said what one person views as a piece of art, someone else make look at it and see no art at all.......I feel that art, as is beauty, is always in the eye of the beholder.
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As I said in an earlier post, you've come to your friends for suggestions/advice.....And most of the friends here who have had similar experiences have suggested to you that it will take a professional to help you figure this out and get beyond it.............Over 15 years ago, I gave up my professional practice to enter the educational field. But I teach mental health professionals. So I stay abreast of what is currently thought regarding emotional issues. When I was practicing, and even today, self injuring is considered a symptom of something much deeper.......more often than not, it is a behavior that will take more than you, your mother, or your friends to help you stop....It can also lead to more serious injuries if it continues.......Again with all my heart, I urge you to seek professional help.
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No, I don't think it's something that anyone should try to make you feel bad about....because this doesn't mean that you are a bad person.......Still, obviously it bothers you that you do this....it also seems to bother you that it just happens, and you seem not to be able to control it. You've decided to ask your friends hear for their opinions.........So, here is my opinion........I truly believe it would be wise to talk to a professional...................I'm not trying to put any kind of label on you. From reading this post, it seems that this is a behavior that you want to stop....and you aren't sure how to do it. I think the best way to do it is to get some help from a professional whose expertise is in this area.
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Nope!!! :angry:
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Any form of abuse to humans or animals.
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I know that many children who are adopted, or for other reason have never known their mothers, often envy people who have their mothers........But the term mother carries a lot of weight and responsibility. Being a mother does not mean you have to be perfect......No one is perfect........and kids growing up, are often critical of their mothers when their parenting style restricts them from having their way, or when they feel their mothers are asking for too much information about their lives: or when their mothers make them do chores, and attend activities or go places they would prefer not to go.........Later in life is when kids better understand how much better it is to have had a mother who was so involved in their lives that she cared enough to make decisions and choices for them, than to allowed them to self destruct........The term mother is suppose to be symbolic of a parent that a child can trust. She should be a mentor, role model, protector. She is supposed to nurture, and help to build character, and self esteem within her child........And yet there are females who give birth to children, who for many reasons are not capable of, or who have no desire to do these things........who truly see their children as burdens, and respond to them in this way.......A child who learns early in life that their own mother can not be trusted, who learns early in life that their mother truly does not love them, or want them, will have serious relationship issues with anyone else, will have anger issues, self esteem issues, and will also have trouble being able to trust or love anyone........In my opinion a person with this kind of mother would be better off not having her in their lives. :angry:
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Christopher Reeve was truly a Super Man among men. :angry:
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I don't know about being the best, but the most interesting female character to me was B'Elanna Torres.....I looked forward to seeing how she was going to resolve her issues/challenges in the various episodes. In addition I liked the passion she had about her beliefs. She was courageous, honest.....and, spirited. :biggrin:
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The Voyager Crew!!!! :biggrin:
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I know a lot of horror stories about prescribed medications.......about as many as I know about illicit drugs......I have very serious allergies, but I am very careful about what I take to treat them. I try to take as little medication as possible, and treat my immune system with vegetables and vitamins.
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He's hangin' out now with Red Sklelton, Sid Ceasar, Jack Benny, and other great comedians..............But he will be missed and remembered.!!!!!!!
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I like this topic, and you make some very interesting points........I know from my own personal experiences, and professional experiences as a therapist that in-person relationships can be as deceiving as those entered into on line........what you see is not always what you get. I think one needs to be equally careful and cautious when entering into any kind of relationship. I will also say that learning about someone from the inside out is best regardless... when physical attraction is the main reason one is in a relationship......it is a shallow relationship that will not last once you really get to know the inside of that person..........Yes you can fall in love with someone before you meet them in person........I know this because the person that I have been with now for two years, I met via the internet......and we fell in love before we met............I do belive some people feel more secure for a time interacting behind the screen of a computer...........but if they are hiding something, insecurity becomes the reality for them once the person with whom they are communicating, wants a meeting to take place..........But my main point here is that we all need to be aware that dishonest people will play their games whether they are on-line or standing in front of you.............don't jump quickly into a relationship..........I find that to be the main problem......people meet either in person or on line, and jump head over hills into a relationship, before they truly know with whom they are dealing.
Online you learn about someone from the inside out. In-Person it's from the outside in. In-Person it takes you longer to get a true picture of a person, but online you do have to take a person at their word. If they tell you they're a certain age or sex you have to believe them so there's a greater chance for deception. It's harder for a retired steel worker to pass himself off as a 25 year old hair stylist in-person. Does the anonymity of the internet allow people to be more secure about who they are and give you a truer idea of who they are? Or do you have to meet someone before you can feel an emotional attachment to them? Does it allow someone to be themselves and not worry about how someone will judge them based on their appearance? Do you think you'd have conversations with the members of this site if you ran into them at a bus stop or waiting in line at the store? You wouldn't even know that you shared a common interest in Star Trek, for example. What are everyone's thoughts on any of this?
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This website has helped me to really understand how "global" Star Trek truly is..........Star Trek has touched the lives of thousands throughout the world. That has been brought home to me by the fans here on this web site. My some of my favorite series are no longer being aired on TV, and startrekfans.net helps to keep the episodes and characters alive through discussions with other fans.
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For many years I did not get the flu shot...I used to brag about how I wasn't at high risk, and that I didn't get the flu.........then one year after all the bragging....I got the flu.........I will never froget how much pain and agony I was in.......Ever since that year I have gotten the shot, and wouldn't think twice about not getting it........I don't think I will ever brag again about not being at risk for anything ..........I guess I believe now that if you are around long enough, your time will come.
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Well UH, I guess you and I will have to be "the bad guys" on this topic. When my son was a boy he too enjoyed Halloween, and the trick or treat activities............But it was all so sad to me that I had to check everything that he brought home before he ate it.........Why?......not because I was paranoid, but because of the people who use Halloween to do evil, and try to hurt children............There have been many children that have been poisoned, with candy filled with arsonic on Halloween, I can even remember one man who poisoned his own children to collect insurance.......
I also think that people should have the right not to celebrate Halloween.....and not have their windows soaped, eggs thrown all over their houses, their trees and yards papered with toilet paper, their yard furniture moved all over the neigborhood,garbage cans emptyed in their yards, the antennas broken off their cars, or their cars scratched and scraped............
See, what I don't like about Halloween is that it is often used as coersion by some. In other words.......either you give me a treat, "or you'll be sorry."...........I'm also not a great fan of a day that seems to celebrate evil......As I said, I did allow my son to engage in the tradition........But his costumes definitely had to meet my approval.......I always checked what he brought home before he ate it, and went with him when he was a small child. As an older child, when he was with a group, I always knew where he was going. He also knew that should someone refuse to give him candy, etc., he was simply to move on to the next house.........
These are just my thoughts about Halloween. Obviously they are different from most.......But it certainly would not upset me, should Halloween suddenly disappear from the calendar.............children have been hurt and killed because of this tradition, and many people have endured property damage because of this tradition.
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Good points......I agree.
I think Janeway took the attitude of protective mother when it came to Seven. Yeah, she may have been somewhat hypocritical but the position she took was the same as a mother with a child, which in retrospec, Seven was when it came to dealing with the fact she was a human. Seven didn't really know what being a human all entails. How many of us have screamed at our own parents for not letting us do what we though we wanted to do, like jumping off a bridge because all our friends were doing it? There were just some decisions that Janeway made with Seven because Seven just didn't really know any better yet. Janeway was going to protect Seven from herself if she had to, just like a mother, and wasn't going to let her go off and rejoin the collective just because she wanted to. Janeway was determined to keep her as a human and all of Seven's wailing wasn't going to change that. Really, don't you think that you saw a bit of your own mother in Janeway in how she treated Seven? -
Not to me!!!
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The lastest by Dido........."White Flag."..........I think it is one of the most beautiful love songs that's been written and sung in a very long time. :(
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I was gone for a few months also..........I was wondering what happened. I do understand where AE is is coming from........I just wish things had not gotten to the point where it left AE no choice. :(
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I've been with aol for years......I've tried several others that were mentioned here and had too many problems. so I eventually let them go......I've always kept aol...and it by far has for me, proved to be the most reliable.
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Yes , I am.
How Would You Feel If Mark Hamill Was On Star Trek
in Ten Forward
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I am also a huge Star Wars fan...so I think it would be a great idea.