Gotabite

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    For love reflects this life we live. If you can't handle all of the imperfections of this life stay away from love......For when you say "I love you to anyone".......you are saying, I am there for you......whether it is your child, your friend, your lover, spouse....whoever......you are also saying, I will not hurt or abuse you intentionally, I accept you regardless, I will forgive your imperfections, I will be there for you during difficult times.....in other words, you can count on me.........I find especially when there is romantic love, couples get so caught up in the intimate aspects, that they forget that there is more to life than the intimacy. In fact much of their love is shallow and doesn't go far beyond the physical........if you ask them why they love the person....they can't tell you very much.........I know I'm writing too much here.......but LOVE is a very powerful word. It has a beautiful meaning. And yet, I find some take it lightly; don't understand it, abuse it and use it as a means of control.

    That is the most mis-understood aspect of it in my opinion too. Most people, including my last long relationship, don't take it into account. it's all physical and nothing else. The only thing you left out is honesty. A relationship cannot continue without honesty, and it cannot be build on sex alone. I'm a firm believer of that. Always have been. Glad to see there are others like me who don't just say "I love you" becuase it sounds good.

    Chronic, even though I didn't use the word "honesty," it was implied. But thanks for pointing out to me that I didn't say it. You are correct...you can not have love without honesty. If people say "I love you", and are unable to live up to what these words imply; they are being very dishonest. Also, if they are not honest with you through out the relationship, they don't love you. <_<

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    I missed this thread when it was a hot topic. But I still think it's one I'd like to respond to. For I don't believe many understand the implications of using this term when they declare their love for someone, including relatives. Yes, there are different kinds of love....the love a parent is suppose to have for a child; the love siblings and other relatives are supposed to have for each other.....My understanding of love is that it is should be unconditional, not controlling.....and yet I have seen parents dis-own children who are gay, or have babies out of wedlock, or even who don't live up to their expectations.......In addition love means accepting imperfections, and health changes. I have known husbands to leave their wives becasue they could not accept them after a mastectomy, or after they had been victims of rape. I have known husbands and wives to be unfaithful and to justify this behavior saying, "it really didn't mean anything.".........One of the most powerful poems I have ever read about love is written in a book called "The Prophet.".......a verse form it reads...."think not that you can direct the course of love, for love if it finds you worthy, directs your course.......To me this means, if you say you love someone, prepare yourself for almost anything......For love reflects this life we live. If you can't handle all of the imperfections of this life stay away from love......For when you say "I love you to anyone".......you are saying, I am there for you......whether it is your child, your friend, your lover, spouse....whoever......you are also saying, I will not hurt or abuse you intentionally, I accept you regardless, I will forgive your imperfections, I will be there for you during difficult times.....in other words, you can count on me.........I find especially when there is romantic love, couples get so caught up in the intimate aspects, that they forget that there is more to life than the intimacy. In fact much of their love is shallow and doesn't go far beyond the physical........if you ask them why they love the person....they can't tell you very much.........I know I'm writing too much here.......but LOVE is a very powerful word. It has a beautiful meaning. And yet, I find some take it lightly; don't understand it, abuse it and use it as a means of control.

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    Okay, I'm back now. Had a few stresses in my life (March 21 was my brother's birthday. He died in 1997. It's always a tough time of the year for me.) and needed to take a break.

     

    Feeling much better and very refreshed.

     

    Now to join the Takara Soong Fan Club, send your $20 payment (cheque/check/money order/credit card number accepted) to...

    You're a big part of our family....glad to have you back. :o

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    Trust me Tina,

    Let the man run the country

    and the woman the kitchen.

     

    :dude:

    There are many men who are also in the kitchen...many great chefs are men.........There are also many women who have been leaders and pioneers as far as this country is concern.........what is your statement implying here?

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    In my opinion the all time worst episode was in season 2.....the episode called "Threshold" where Tom Paris mutates into some sort of reptile, eventually kidnaps Janeway; they mate and produce other little reptiles....I found this episode quite ridiculous...............There were many Voyager episodes that I truly enjoyed over the course of the seven year series...too numerous to list them all but I will name a few......Caretaker, The Gift, Scorpion., Muse, Faces, Remember, and Workforce.

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    Anger is a very important emotion. Just as important is how we express it. When I am angry, the first thing I try to do is to get off to my self to think about how I should express it. If it's possible, I try to reach a friend and talk about it , and get some objectivity. If I can't reach anyone, I i'll try to go for a walk, or get into some other form of exercise to calm myself, and get in a frame of mind where I can be sure I respond appropriately. It also helps me to write out my angry thoughts, and why I am angry. Then if I am angry with a person; when I am certain that I can handle my anger in a civilized manner, I will confront that person regarding what they did to make me angry.