Benefits And Drawbacks Of Living Alone

[Jeanway 0]

, or :o

[WEAREBORG4102 0]

benefits: no fights, peace, quiet, privacy, time

drawbacks: loneliness, insecurity

 

I wouldn't know from experience, but I'm just assuming.

[fenriz275 0]

One of the drawbacks is that when you misplace something, like say the TV remote, there's no one else to blame. Of course you always get to watch what you want to watch when you live alone.

[Jeanway 0]

You can wear what you want, or not

[WEAREBORG4102 0]

You can wear what you want, or not  

Another Choice...

 

Boxers or briefs for guys...

[Theunicornhunter 2]

Benefits

No arguing over the thermostat

You can have salt & vinegar potato chips and Mountain Dew for dinner

Or you can have cauliflower and brussels sprouts for dinner

You control the volume in tv, stereo (basically everything)

You don't have to do dishes if you don't want to

No body messes up right after you do clean

You can tie up the phone as often as you like

You can sleep late without someone making noise to wake you up

You can drink out of the carton (I still can't do it though)

You can put your barbie doll collection overflow in the living room

You can burn scented candles

You decide if it's okay to eat lots of cheap noodles for a week and buy a new collectible.

You can sleep on the couch in the middle of the day

You can wear your jammies all day if you like

You can use the living room floor to "block" your crochet project without worrying it will get stepped on.

You answer to no one

 

Downside

All the bills are solely your responsibility

If you get kidnapped - no one will notice right away if you don't come home.

Moving furniture is a pain.

Decorating the Christmas tree isn't as much fun.

No one gets to hear how much you hate your job.

[BlueCrystal 0]

Benefit: No one tells you how to spend your money.

No one can tell you where you can or can not go.

No one can make you watch news that seems to repeat over and over again until you want to scream.

No one can sneak up behind you and goose you into a near heart attack.

No one can send the dog to find you when your taking a shower and have him jump into the tub with you.

 

Downside: No one to hold you when you cry.

No one to rejoice with.

No one to share a the cold or flu with.

No one to cuddle with in the middle of a cold winter's night.

No one to sing to when you're happy.

No one to make love with.

[Jeanway 0]

O.K. :: rubs palms together briskly::

 

You can wash dishes at 3 A.M. With radio blasting.

 

You can leave all the windows open with the heat on.

 

You can lick the bowl all you want, damn I've done that sometimes there wasn't any batter left for to go in the oven

 

You can stay up all night if you want.

 

You can sleep all day if you want.

 

You don't have to explain every little thing you do.

 

You can take off your clothes and just leave them on the floor, everywhere, like a guy

 

You can spend your money on whatever you want.

 

You can go out whenever you want.

 

You can go out with whoever you want.

 

You can stay in with whoever you want.

 

You can line up all your dollies on the couch and yell at them.

 

You can crumb up the bed and lay in it in Peace.

 

You can wear anything flannel without listening to someone say " You remind me of my Grand-Mother.

 

You can do your art anywhere you want.

[Tina 0]

TV..Me have remote

 

YEAH

[Mike 5]

Benefits

You don't have to answer to anyone

No fights or disagreements

The Computer and the TV are there for you 24/7

You sleep without someone elbowing you in the side

No waking up with cold feet on you...lol

Eat and drink what you want when you want

You can buy Star Trek stuff whenever you want !

You don't have to feel like you have to go out to eat every weekend

Freedom to do what you want when you want

 

Drawbacks

Loneliness

Single income for paying bills

Hard to go out to a restaurant or a movie by yourself

All outdoor and indoor chores need to be done by you

Bad home cooked meals

[mj 7]

Benefits: Your significant other is not an axe murderer, because there is no significant other! ( Sorry..I just saw Vegas Homicide and the husband killed the wife with a baseball bat.)

 

Downside: No one to corraborate your alibi if you are accused of murder or some other serious crime. (Hmmm...too many murder mysteries on the brain...)

[Jim Phaserman 0]

Reading this reminded me: My anniversary is the 22nd, I better make sure I get something...it's been almost a year since I've lived alone...I liked being able to play video games in my boxers without someone yelling at me.

[Theunicornhunter 2]

Interesting responses - everyone seems to think of living with someone as in the "significant other" definition - but there are roommmates/housemates and family members that also define the people we live with. There it's a toss us - lower expenses but greater misery.

 

MJ, if you spend time online and posting you have an "alibi" of where you were when.

 

Funny, but I rarely get lonely living alone. I get lonely at holidays. I've gone to movies by myself for years (that way I get to choose the movie).

 

As for the homecooked meal thing - thing is if I were married I'd probably be expected to do the cooking. so I'd lose either way.

 

And from what I've heard being married is no guarantee there will be someone there to care for and about you.

[Rivendells_king 0]

Benifits: no sleeping on the couch, no getting naged at.

Bad things: haft to pay for rent with your money every month, geting all lonely and starting to talk to your self about weird things and never go outside like me.

[Jim Phaserman 0]

And from what I've heard being married is no guarantee there will be someone there to care for and about you.

I discovered this with my first marraige. My first wife...well, the term "Marine Layer" fits, I suppose.

[Mike 5]

Funny, but I rarely get lonely living alone.  I get lonely at holidays.  I've gone to movies by myself for years (that way I get to choose the movie).

 

I've tried the marriage thing a couple of times so I know it's not for me..It's better that I am living alone. However, lately I've been lonely and depressed more often than usual.. Thank God I have the internet and this site to keep me occupied..

 

I've heard from other people that they like going out to movies by themselves. I just have a hard time going out alone so I normally don't. I usually go to the movies with my brother..Well, this is a depressing post and I didn't mean for it to be..I need to go watch some Trek..That always cheers me up..

[Jeanway 0]

Me too Tig. I hate the holidays. And I hate listening to people who have family constantly complaining about them. I also hate it when people tell me how great their families are. I can't win and I can't help it.

 

I watch alot of movies at home, hate theatres. I watched over 800 movies last year. Mostly foreign films, I think they are different than American made movies, I'm not saying better, just different. But I don't like alot of the foreign films endings, they always seem to leave you up in the air. American endings are more definate and final. Much like American love affairs.

[mj 7]

MJ, if you spend time online and posting you have an "alibi" of where you were when. 

 

Funny, but I rarely get lonely living alone.  I get lonely at holidays.  I've gone to movies by myself for years (that way I get to choose the movie).

 

As for the homecooked meal thing - thing is if I were married I'd probably be expected to do the cooking. so I'd lose either way.

 

And from what I've heard being married is no guarantee there will be someone there to care for and about you.

I don't go to movies often, but I go out to eat alone, and have done that for years without feeling strange. Like you, I am used to being alone and do not get lonely that often--but sometimes I do. Also I interact with so many people at work, that by the time I get home I need the solitude. I also do not live in fear.

 

I agree with what you say here, except I always go to see relatives over the holidays.

[Odo 0]

Living alone has its advantages and disadvantages.

living alone for almost 20 years myself I can say I am somewhat an expert.

I love the peace and quite.But miss someone to talk to when Iam down or had a bad day.But as previously stated lots interaction at work. You all here

All in all life is good

[=-=SmOkEd=-= 0]

think what i am about to say has already been said...so i'l try my best chnage it around a bit mmK

 

1# being in control of how you run every day life is a benefit when alone

(and am not saying ppl are not in control when not alone) your are your own boss

and only ur self to blame if things go wrong

 

2# being alone and feeling lonley has to be one of the worst emotions

(own experince)

 

i know there are a lot of ppl out there who handle being alone and enjoy life

 

personal its my worst fear to spend my life alone

 

dont get me wrong..i love my free space&time ...but life is a comprimise..either with your self or with others

[Jeanway 0]

When I was growing up, one of the biggest things my mother stressed was that I had to be married and live with him the rest of my natural, damn life. She told me living alone was a terrible fate and linked it to dying alone all the time. But you know what? I don't think that really holds water. If you get married and he dies before you do your still going to die alone. And living alone now isn't the way she made it out to be. It's really nice. I don't think she ever lived alone, she was just reflecting on me what she was told by her mother. It's really very nice. I like it alot.

[=-=SmOkEd=-= 0]

well i can understand your mothers views and advice....and i know how good it is liveing alone but i know how good it is shareing my life with someone......

 

as long as one is content in one's life and actions..no mater what you choose

 

*thumbs up*

[Theunicornhunter 2]

Okay, are we talking strictly marriage/non marriage or the benefits of living alone versus living with other people?

 

Regarding marriage, well Jeanway, it's like that line from Fiddler on the Roof when Yenta says "..a bad husband is better than no husband.." and they shudder. Fortunately, we've become smarter than that.

 

When you get old I think not having children will be far more lonely than not having a spouse. I plan to die before I get nursing home bound but just in case I outlive my plans I sure hope those neices and nephews I've been babysitting for will drop in for a visit occasionally.

 

As for living with people - the misery they cause far outweighs any financial benefit of reduced cost of living. I think I would shoot myself if I had to go back and live with a roommate (and I'm not convinced getting married would be any different)