The Mother-in-law issue in Off Topic Discussions Posted October 23, 2005 Ok, here's something my friends and I have been having heated discussions about. Mommy. Should any spouse EXPECT at some time that when they get married it's them and the mother. That in marrying, they also marry the mother. Now, I don't mean that families merge. That's an obvious. What I mean is that Mom is expected right from the start to move in with you and live with you. The women seem to be of the mind "NEVER", while the men seem to vary. So I thought I'd like to see what you all think. BTW- in this scenerio, the Mom isn't old. She's lively, vivacious, and works. She can support herself, and has her own interests. She isn't elderly. She isn't poor. She isn't anything that would make it necessary to determine if she goes into a nursing home, or move in with family.