Dating

[Odo 0]

been sick latley not been on line

as much as i was.

my quest[on is my good friend after i was better

we slept together. not a big deal to me. but when my so called

friends found out she was black. now we are both

bad people , she put in her notice.

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Iam sorry if i pissed people off

Its not the color of the wrapping

Its the content of the package

 

 

Sorry for the double post

would like your opinion

[Angela 1]

they're the one's with the issue hun. If they can't accept another person before first looking at the colour of their skin then just how far have the come??

[youbroughtheryouRiker 2]

Sheesh, I keep wanting to believe that we have, for the most part, progressed beyond this. It's sad that we haven't.

 

I have no problem with it. I'm White, and my girlfriend is Hispanic.

[Yillara Skye 1]

Sheesh, I keep wanting to believe that we have, for the most part, progressed beyond this. It's sad that we haven't.

Agreed, it is pathetically sad that people have not progressed passed this. In my family, majority do not have a single problem with the color of a person's skin. One uncle of mine is African American, and thus so are three of my cousins. Color and race are not an issue with us (my friends & family come from a variety of backgrounds), it is truly sad that some people still DO have issues with it.

 

What matters most is... how the two of you feel about each other, Odo. regardless of what the so called "friends" think.

Edited February 17, 2006 by Yillara_Skye

[MrPsychic 1]

If they're not happy but you are Odo, you know what I would do? I'd tell them to get out of my life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with interracial dating. We're all homo sapians first and foremost.

[Jim Phaserman 0]

Alright, Tom will tell you I've been around the block a few times. And I didn't limit it to white chicks. I dated anyone willing to take a gamble with me. If my friends had a problem with that, then that's what it is: THEY have a problem, NOT ME. My pappy done raised me to believe that all people is beautiful.

[Stephen of Borg 2]

I don't have a problem with interracial dating at all, I'm white and I have a thing for Asian women :lol: :lol:

Edited February 17, 2006 by Gamera

[Jim Phaserman 0]

Doesn't Everybody, Gamera?

[Stephen of Borg 2]

true, now that I think about it :lol:

[Data 0]

What I have to say is only a repeat of what everybody else already said. What a couple does is their business. The important thing is that they should be happy.

[Odie 0]

There are not much say about this topic that hasn't been already had been posted. We are in the 21st century and everyone should be treated as a person and not based on their skin color.

[Kor37 9]

I have no problem with interracial sex (Has always been a secret fantasy of mine....uh...but I digress...)

 

I have an Aunt who married a black man and had a daughter. I have no problem at all with my black cousin and neither does the rest of my family.

[Wishfire 2]

So, they have a problem with it? You should point and laugh at them, and treat them like they treat you. Because you're not the bad person for sleeping with someone with a different skin color, they're the bad people for having a problem with it.

[Theunicornhunter 2]

To be honest Odo, I didn't really understand your post - I gather the gist is you're asking what we think of interacial dating (still don't get the "she put in her notice")

 

My personal opinion is it is up to the couple but the fact is some people do have issues with it; they have issues with what political party or religion or social class or education level etc etc etc. I'm not sure you can say either is "right" or "wrong" or "good" or "bad" don't want to rehash an old debate but those are simply subjective terms upon which not everyone will agree. (seriously, I had a roommate who wasn't sure she wanted to marry a Republican - I'm not sure I'd want to either :lol: ) So, the bottom line is - that's how people are and you can't change them - you have to choose and that may mean dumping old friends and making new.

 

I'm also noticed a lot of people use the terms sex and dating interchangeably - but the truth is - if all you're looking for is someone to have sex with - no "relationship" then you probably dont' have to worry about taking them to family dinners. However, sometimes (and that means occasionally, not always) if a person is from a different ethnic background they can also be from a different cultural background - and sometimes world's collide - which becomes important if you're looking for a long term relationship.

 

As for the Asian women fantasy - I've read that was because historically Asian women were from cultures where women were much more subservient than American women; I've read repeatedly that American men don't like strong willed independent American women. The good news is that women are becoming more independent everywhere. :lol:

[Jim Phaserman 0]

Women are becoming more strong willed, TUH. Just look at my wife and my sister-in-law...

[mj 7]

I perfectly understood Odo's line about her turning in her notice. She is leaving her job.

 

She is leaving her job, because while Odo had to deal with his friends making comments, she is in hell. What she is now going through is a hundred times worse than what Odo is having to put up with. She has to be on guard every minute for harassing, behind the back, things that people do to make daily life miserable. And if she complains, no one sees anything, or perhaps she misinterpreted the meaning, or

so and so is not like that, etc. And if she confronts the harasser, he claims to believe in the rights of everyone, with a smirk on his face.

 

I would not be inclined to get into an interracial marriage (I am not willing to have an affair) because while this society has made enormous progress, the racists in this society are very active, and quite astute in making life miserable for people they hate, while members of their own race are quite oblivious to what they are doing. It simply is not worth it.

[Wishfire 2]

As for the Asian women fantasy - I've read that was because historically Asian women were from cultures where women were much more subservient than American women; I've read repeatedly that American men don't like strong willed independent American women. The good news is that women are becoming more independent everywhere. :lol:

 

I just think they're beautiful, more so than the women of most other ethnic backgrounds.

 

Of course, there are exceptions (from both sides).

[Theunicornhunter 2]

I would not be inclined to get into an interracial marriage (I am not willing to have an affair) because while this society has made enormous progress, the racists in this society are very active, and quite astute in making life miserable for people they hate, while members of their own race are quite oblivious to what they are doing. It simply is not worth it.

 

I realize racism does exist but I have also known interracial couples that have made it work - I guess the right social context (family, friends, work environment) can make a difference. But I'd hate to think someone passed up their one chance for happiness because some people can be jerks.

[youbroughtheryouRiker 2]

As for the Asian women fantasy - I've read that was because historically Asian women were from cultures where women were much more subservient than American women; I've read repeatedly that American men don't like strong willed independent American women. The good news is that women are becoming more independent everywhere. :lol:

 

I just think they're beautiful, more so than the women of most other ethnic backgrounds.

 

Of course, there are exceptions (from both sides).

 

Meh, for me, beauty is beauty. It can come in any race. And I've seen it come in just about every race. I've also seen almost every race show examples of those who fell from the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down.

 

So chalk me up as one who doesn't have Asian fantasies.

[jadziaezri 0]

i have a few clich'es to input, but i feel they are valid here.

 

"There is only one race, the human race"

"IDIC"

 

also odo, if you wanted ppl to say that interracial relationships wont work, you should have posted on a non-star trek page. I have found as a whole they are an accepting bunch of folk. (feel free to disagree ppl)

[Odo 0]

I would like to thank you all who answered so far.

But maybe I stated it wrong. I am not asking for

approvel or disapprovel. I am a big boy i can make

my on choices. Was asking yor oppinion.

 

As i said its not

The color of the wrapping

Its the contents of the package.

 

As for her putting in her notice we work in the same place.

And as some have said I did speek my mind to my

so called friends. And told them just where they can put

there comments. Some are still friends some are not.

 

As Odie said this is the 21st century

why can we not get by racial bais.

We are one race HUMAN.

[Theunicornhunter 2]

Odo, you shouldn't sleep with the people you work with - regardless of race or anything else - unless it's a large, large company and you're in different deparments.

[Krissy Phaserman 0]

Odo, this sounds almost like a problem I saw in High School, though not Interracial. It was actually a same-sex issue. a Couple of girls on MY cheerleading squad began dating...and undertaking some extra-wardrobe meneuvers, if you know what I mean...When the rest of the squad found out, alot of the girls wanted to kick them off. We had all, as a group, been friends since elementary school by this point, so 8-10 years. Suddenly, when two became Lesbians, the rest of the group didn't want to have to socialise with them. I basically called a meeting of the entire squad, except those two girls, under the pretense---a false one, I lied,---of voting them on or off the squad. When the rest of the squad got there, I told them all off. I told them this kind of petty hating would no longer be tolerated, and if it persisted, the persons responsible would find themselves cheering from the bleechers. Not exactly the same situation, but Even now, we still have people who can't stand people who are different, weather it's skin color, religion, or sexual preference. We are civilised society, shouldn't we be able to put those differences behind us?