Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 17, 2005 (edited) It seems we all have seen posts on this site where people are pondering relationships. And as we are truly different species from men and we from then, I thought posting the different chapter names, and having people comment on them, and perhaps further discussions may be beneficial to understand the opposite sex. So guys, if you have something positive to contribute, we'd appreciate your help. **some mature themes listed in book as topics** He's just not that into you if ..................................... ~If he's not asking you out ~If he's not calling you ~If he's not dating you ~If he's not having sex with you ~If he's having sex with someone else ~If he only wants to see you when he's drunk ~If he doesn't want to marry you ~If he's breaking up with you ~If he's disappeared on you ~If he's married (and other insane variations of being unavailable ~If he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak Edited August 17, 2005 by Madame Butterfly Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tina 0 Posted August 17, 2005 That last one is sooo true Mb Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 17, 2005 So what do women consider selfish, and what do guys consider normal? Is it just a gender gap, or is it perception. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tina 0 Posted August 17, 2005 making fun of your freinds,putting you down or trying to change who you are Off the top of my head Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kor37 9 Posted August 17, 2005 making fun of your freinds,putting you down or trying to change who you are Off the top of my head 347867[/snapback] Thats not selfish.....thats just plain mean! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HRH The KING 0 Posted August 17, 2005 He's Just Not That Into You If......... .....he's Jude Law and you are Sienna Miller. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 17, 2005 making fun of your freinds,putting you down or trying to change who you are Off the top of my head 347867[/snapback] Thats not selfish.....thats just plain mean! 347877[/snapback] I'd have to agree with that one kor. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 17, 2005 He's Just Not That Into You If......... .....he's Jude Law and you are Sienna Miller. 347881[/snapback] The problem with Jude Law is that he's into everyone, literally. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tina 0 Posted August 18, 2005 The problem with Jude Law is that he's into everyone, literally Even Ewan mcgregor Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 You just never know. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HRH The KING 0 Posted August 18, 2005 Jude is treacherous. He should be called "Judas". What a bloody cad. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Theunicornhunter 2 Posted August 18, 2005 I don't remember the exact quote but one of my favorite lines from TNG was when Data was trying to understand women and asking people for advice. Picard told him "I'd be happy to share my advice about understanding women - as soon as I have some I'll let you know" My view on relationships - ultimately it isn't about the other person it's about who you are. If you have to "be someone you're not" then the relationship, IMO, isn't worth it. If you are willing to put up with someone like Tina described - you need to ask yourself why - and that actually just sounds "typical" not anything extraordinarily jerkish. If you have to ask if he's really in to you - he probably isn't. If you're still worried about it and you're some where after the second question - you should be asking yourself why. The secret to a happy relationship is to first be happy with who you are single. And then don't engage in relationships that change that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kyra_Ashleigh 0 Posted August 18, 2005 The secret to a happy relationship is to first be happy with who you are single. And then don't engage in relationships that change that. Agreed completely. If someone doesn't like you for who you are, they're not "the one." Why stay with someone who isn't right for you. Keep looking! And iyou're not happy with yourself, how could you ever be happy with someone else? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wishfire 2 Posted August 18, 2005 Jude is treacherous. He should be called "Judas". What a bloody cad. 347896[/snapback] No, I already took that nick-name long ago... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 Agreed completely. If someone doesn't like you for who you are, they're not "the one." Why stay with someone who isn't right for you. Keep looking! And iyou're not happy with yourself, how could you ever be happy with someone else? Well, I what I was trying to get people to talk about were other things really. Obviously if someone is mean to you or your friends, you shouldn't be with them. But what about those more subtle things that happen in a relationship? I think everyone is thinking to broadly Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HRH The KING 0 Posted August 18, 2005 He's Just Not That Into You If......... .......he's a Scientologist movie megastar, and your name is Nicole Kidman. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Data 0 Posted August 18, 2005 I don't know what any of you gals think of Brad Pitt. But I think he sucks. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HRH The KING 0 Posted August 18, 2005 He's Just Not That Into You If......... ......he's the great Hefe, and you are "Blonde Playboy Mansion Bimbo #5" Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 Replying to He's Just Not That Into You If......... He doesn't make the time to call you or to be with you If he his word means nothing If he says he'll do something, and then he backs out without a good reason. If your body "vibes" give you a bad feeling when you're talking to him. Your body doesn't lie, your mind can. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 He's Just Not That Into You If......... ......he's the great Hefe, and you are "Blonde Playboy Mansion Bimbo #5" 347988[/snapback] Hef's into everyone, literally, so you don't expect him to be wanting to have a relationship with you. Besides, the blonde bimbo brigade with plastic inserts don't have any higher expectation than to have their 15 minutes. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 I don't know what any of you gals think of Brad Pitt. But I think he sucks. 347986[/snapback] Here's link to a thread we were using the other day Data. http://www.startrekfans.net/index.php?show...+law+brad++pitt Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 Hmmmmmmmmmmm, I think some of you don't realize that "He's just not that into you if............." was a huge bestseller written by some of the people involved with Sex and The City. A mans advice to woman about what all those things you tell us, and what's really behind them. I started this thread after reading alot of PL's that discussed confusion in relationships in hopes of maybe having some candid comments from each sex, or perhaps some questions to be asked back and forth. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Data 0 Posted August 18, 2005 I don't know what any of you gals think of Brad Pitt. But I think he sucks. 347986[/snapback] Here's link to a thread we were using the other day Data. http://www.startrekfans.net/index.php?show...+law+brad++pitt 347993[/snapback] That poll is tough. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Madame Butterfly 0 Posted August 18, 2005 It was meant to be!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yillara Skye 1 Posted August 19, 2005 I don't know what any of you gals think of Brad Pitt. But I think he sucks. 347986[/snapback] Here's link to a thread we were using the other day Data. http://www.startrekfans.net/index.php?show...+law+brad++pitt 347993[/snapback] I ended up not voting in that thread, because I would not pick either. Sure, both have had some good roles (Brad seems to be the slightly better actor). But to both of them. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites